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July 3, 2012

A little over a week ago I turned 31. I usually write a post on here on my birthday just to honor and respect life and to show my appreciation for all the things I have, have been through and to where I am going. In last year’s post I was very reflective because it was a “big birthday.” But as I grow older I realize each new year of life is a very big deal.

There were people in my life last year that are not this year, whether it be by death or just as a happenstance of growth. But I’m so grateful for the part they played in my life. This last year has had some highs and lows for me. But I’m still really grateful. I learned a tremendous amount, about my self, about others and about how I want to shape my life.

I learned the importance of friendship and the great role certain people play in my life. I continue to learn about purpose and about working to listen to God speak to me versus jumping out on my own. I’ve learned about trust and who I can and cannot depend on.

One of my biggest lessons this year I’ve learned is trusting my “gut.” I wish I could elaborate on those circumstances more but out of respect for myself and others I’d just say that gut/intuition/feeling on the inside you get is nothing to be ignored. Another great aha moment in my 30th year of life was making the transition to do more of what I want to do vs. always trying to be everything to everyone and very little to myself.

All in all this last year has been beautiful. I’m still breathing, I’m living, I’m loving, I’m serving, I’m traveling, I’m growing, I’m evolving, I’m connecting and most importantly I’m healing.

a real vacation…

September 10, 2011

I’ve learned a lot about myself in the past seven days. I’ve been away from home, the office, major responsibilities and stress and pretty much doing absolutely nothing.

I decided earlier in the year I wanted to take a vacation. I didn’t want a big city, go to the club every night, see all the sights type of vacation. But a have nothing on my agenda, sleep when I want to, get up when I want, to eat what I want to, wear what I want to type of vacation. And it has been pure bliss.

A week ago I hopped on a plane and a ferry and I’ve spent the last seven days walking around, shopping, meeting people, wandering and exploring. I’ve been to the beach every single day. I’ve eaten lobster and other seafood like it’s going out of style. I’ve eaten real ice cream and drank wine by the goblet, I’ve been slightly ashy, curly-headed and makeup free all week and I absolutely enjoy it.

I haven’t had a tension headache, didn’t care what was going on my social media timeline and really let go of what was happening at work. Did I mention I also had no cable and I survived quite amazingly.

I’ve learned this week that in spite of all the things I have and things I like to do, that living a simple life can be quite rewarding. Things aren’t what make me happy, my job title isn’t what makes me happy, even the people I have relationships with aren’t what makes me happy. Just living life, being encapsulated in love and taking in all the God supplied beauty that is around me is really enough for me.

I appreciate the time I had away. God knows I needed it. Below is a picture I took while away. I’m printing and framing it as a reminder not to take life so seriously, enjoy simple things and just to live.

Hello loves,

Yes I’ve been missing. Like I said in the last post life has had me a tad bit busy. I’ve had my regular job, freelance work, family life, this whole dating thing and trying to manage sleep and relaxation somewhere in the mix. What has kept me pretty focused was my regular refuge, music. I swear even when I feel like pulling my hair out, screaming, crying or just simply need to relax music is such a mood changer in my life. So you know I was THRILLED when I found out about spotify which is seriously just amazing. A library of music where basically any song I desire I can just plug-in and listen to ALL day long.  So if you can try it please check it out.

In other news I’m thinking about redesigning the blog a little bit. With all that’s going on my life I need to be more motivated to write on here (it’s a release) so when I decide on what I really plan on doing I’ll let you all know. I know the first thing will be a dedicated url and I hope to add  vlogs, highlight events and travel and make it more of a hodgepodge of my life.

Over the next month I’ll be on the road every weekend. So what I plan to do is write some pieces on cool things to do in other cities. I also hope to capture some video especially in my travels to Martha’s Vineyard.

Also I am still tackling that summer reading list. I need to update it, some I’ve scratched off and I’ve added a few more. So far my favorite has surprisingly been “The Best Advice I Ever Got: Lessons from Extraordinary Lives” by Katie Couric. It’s A book full of life lessons and short stories from celebs. It’s a light and interesting read that offers some motivation.

Ok that’s all I’m going to ramble about today. Since it’s Monday, here is some music. Today’s song is really old school. My friend made me a mix cd of all these old school songs and I absolutely love this one, mainly because this is a song I remember from some basement parties that used to happen at my house when I was little lol. Most people probably haven’t even heard of the group that sings it.  But today’s selection is It’s Forever by The Ebony’s

Also if you get a chance check out my piece in Pynk Mag: The Other “B” Word

summer reading…

July 14, 2011

I mentioned in my last post that the plan was to spend my summer reading. Well I finally started tackling my books this Saturday and I’ve read three so far and am in the middle of my fourth (one of them I enjoyed so much over 300 pages were read in under 24 hours).

I was asked to post the books I have lined up so here is my laundry list (I’m sure more will be added).  These are books that I had been planning to read. along with books that stood out in the library/book store, or books friends recommended that I’d never gotten to.

Here is what I’m tackling (in no particular order):

  1. B*tch is the New Black by Helena Andrews
  2. Enchantment by Guy Kawasaki
  3. The Total Money Makeover: A Proven Plan For Financial Fitness by Dave Ramsey
  4. A Belle in Brooklyn by Demetria Lucas
  5. The Best Advice I Ever Got by Katie Couric
  6. The Help by Kathryn Stockett
  7. 48 days to the work you love by Dan Miller
  8. Be happy at work : 100 women who love their jobs, and why by Joanne Gordon
  9. Crazy sexy diet by Kris Carr
  10. The five faces of genius by Annette Moser-Wellman
  11. Hot (broke) messes by Nancy Trejos
  12. Lead like Jesus: lessons from the greatest leadership role model of all times by Kenneth Blanchard
  13. The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks by Rebecca Skloot
  14. Feminista by Erica Kennedy
  15. Platinum by Aliya King
  16. The Tea Rose by Jennifer Donnelly
  17. Malcolm X by Manning Marable
  18. One Thousand Gifts by Ann Voskamp
  19. Live it Love it Earn it by Marianna Olszewski
  20. The Five Faces of Genius by Annette Moser Wellman
  21. Praying for Strangers by River Jordan
  22. Black Woman Redefined: Dispelling Myths and Discovering Fulfillment in the Age of Michelle Obama by Sophia Nelson
  23. Decoded by JayZ
  24. Super Rich: A Guide to Having it All by Russell Simmons
Key: Black-Unread
Purple- Currently Reading
Red- Completed
Blue- Unbearable/Couldn’t finish it (I hope nothing fits in this category)

I’m not a huge fiction fan but I’m trying to add some in the mix so if you have any suggestions please offer. Also thanks for the comments in the last post. I decided since this list is UBER long I’ll do an update at the end of the week of what I read, if anything.

Also all of these books are from my local library system. So no money was spent in expanding my mind *smile*

thirty candles…

June 24, 2011


It’s 5:40 am. Most mornings at this time I’m in dream land with two more hours of sleep in front of me. This morning I am awake. Wide awake.

No alarm woke me up, just sounds. Maybe its because I’m a light sleeper, or maybe it’s simply because God knew I needed to have a little sliver of quiet time to reflect and be grateful.

I’m 30 today. THIRTY years old. To some it’s no big deal. But for me it’s secretly kind of major. Not because I’m not where I need to be. Because I am. But I’ve been through a lot.

A LOT. Some days I really wonder how or why I’m sane. But in the over arching scheme of things it’s simply because God has a plan for me. Plain and simple.

I have experienced things, traveled, been in the right place at the right time, had ‘touched by an angel’ moments and seen things with my eyes that some people have and never will see in their lifetime, in 30 years.

People see me and assume I’ve had an easy life. I haven’t. I’ve had a life of storms. But storms tend to do several things. They impact an area, they may frighten you and they may even cause some damage, but they often help as well. In a storm we tend to be quiet and pause and the rain washes away dust and debris and helps things thrive and grow. There also tends to be some sort of reprieve. Whether it’s sunshine or a rainbow.

I’ve chosen to concentrate on the sunshine and rainbows and let that rain help me grow.

At times I still feel awkward and out of place. That’s because I’m still technically going through “puberty.” God is still pulling me and shaping me and growing and changing my appearance.

So at 30 I don’t feel old, I don’t see any wrinkles and I’m not freaking out because it’s ONLY the beginning.

My life has been shaped by every person that has stepped in it. From my biggest fan/motivator/hazer/friend, my mom to people I’ve randomly encountered. I realize my life is better in some way because of an interaction with them.

I am forever appreciative for God’s love and abundance. I am appreciative of how he’s held my hand, covered me and protected me. I’m even grateful for the moments of desperation where I cried and begged and pleaded to him to save my father and my sister because I didn’t believe I could make it without them in my world. Or when I was angry with him and asked why my brother was gone and why I “suffered” so much. I’m grateful that God showed me not only could I do better but I could grow and be better and share my story with others.

So with all that said and 30 plus minutes of typing this on my phone and a wet face later I’m excited and thrilled about what this new year of life has in store for me.

Sent via BlackBerry

monday mashup

February 7, 2011

So I’ve been slacking. Majorly. I should have been posting on here writing about all the ish going on in life but instead I’ve just been busy working, going to the gym, counting calories, eating, sleeping, networking, taking care of family, dating and repeating that cycle.

This weekend was spent with a bunch of fabulous people. A going away party on Friday, networking brunch on Saturday, plus family time and a close friends 30th. Yesterday I was supposed to have gone to an event but I was tired. I got home at 3am Sunday from a day that started at 7am Saturday. I took a shower and got in my bed without setting an alarm. I woke up at… 4:30 pm. Only because my phone was ringing. It was someone checking to see if I was okay since I missed the event.

I was. Just told them I needed to reset and that’s what I did.

So it’s monday and I usually post about music so I’ll offer today’s selections after the jump. But in honor of LOVE week (leading up to valentines day) I decided that a. I will post everyday this week and b. it will be something relating to love. Not just love in a relationship/dating sense but love in general. It might be a photo, a song, something that oozes love, something cute, anything that reflects love to me.

So now on to Music Monday… today’s song selection was picked yesterday before I even thought about a theme. It’s Melanie Fiona and she is covering one of my favorite songs “Ready for Love” by India.Irie

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happy friday

January 7, 2011

Hello all. I know I’ve been kind of MIA this week but it’s been a pretty busy work week. Who knew that I would be in sooooo many meetings all the time. They aren’t giving me any time to pause and write for my blogging family.

But seriously it’s been a rather interesting week. Full of work, good music (I saw Julie Dexter at Blues Alley), self-reflection and brainstorming.

At my church we are in this series talking about spiritual pregnancy and giving birth to ideas, passions and gifts that you have inside of you, that you are called to do. This is something that I’ve been struggling with for a minute because I have things I want to do I just haven’t put forth the effort I think it deserves.
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run christen run

December 11, 2010

Life is always full of synchronicities.

Thursday as a part of the Reset challenge we had to “Do One Thing,” on our goals list. I said I would like to start researching group running programs, because I would really love to do a half marathon or 10k next year.

So fast forward to Friday morning. My mom called and said she decided to participate in the 10 miler this year (she’s done it twice) and she wanted me to join her.

My first though was yeah right, I’ll cheer for you on the side. Then I was like maybe I can do it. Then I doubted myself again. I posted it on twitter and OriginalNajeema reminded me about the 31 Day Reset and what I had written the day before.

I thought about it and thought about it and thought about it ALL day.
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door closing… and opening

December 8, 2010

I’m a bit anxious.

Today is my last day at my current job which means tomorrow is the start of a new beginning.

I’ve been in my current position for a year and five months and I can say that in this job I’ve grown more than ANY position I’ve ever been in. I’m a totally different person, in general and career wise, than I was this time last year.

In one year I’ve gone from being a little shy about my skills to writing and interviewing some pretty heavy hitters in my field. I’ve gone from not knowing how to work certain programs to having people ask me how to do it and I’ve gone from giving an occasional opinion on a program to managing it.

I’ve been REALLY blessed with favor and abundance in my career lately and I appreciate what God is serving up to me.
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Modern Dating

December 6, 2010

Over the weekend I attended an event in DC hosted called “The DC Quarterly.”

This event hosted by Paul Carrick Brunson, a “modern day matchmaker,” from One Degree From Me promised to bring the city’s most eligible bachelors and bachelorettes together for an evening of mixing, mingling, and speed dating.

The event was held at Recess Lounge in DC and it was rather interesting. When we first arrived there were FAR more women than men and eventually the men trickled in. It wasn’t exactly the equal ratio as promised ( I just read on his twitter there were 52 women and 40 men) but it was an interesting evening.

To sum it up the first portion of the event was open mingling and then those that were participating in the speed dating were divided by wrist band colors and sent to three different areas.

The event was described as flow dating and basically you talked to the member of the opposite sex for the duration of a song. You had a “score card” of sorts and you wrote down your name and email at the top and then you wrote down your dates name and scored them between one and 10. If both gave a score over six you were considered to be a “match.”

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